I have a b/f that always works and he is mad b/c I got a job sometimes I am at work when he calls @ 2am,help!?

I cant wait around for him and I am earning money for my dream car...what do I do? He is two years older than I am. He is planning for us to do things together when he is off work but it conflicts with my job and I am making great money at this job. I really dont know what to do bc I have never felt like this with anyone else and I dont want him to think I am choosing money over him but that seems to be the only way it breaks down....HELP ME PLEASE!

I have a b/f that always works and he is mad b/c I got a job sometimes I am at work when he calls @ 2am,help!?
You've got to take care of you and do what is best for you. Discuss this with him...if he's too selfish to accept that you have a goal and are willing to work to reach it, then you don't need him. The world doesn't revolve around him and his whims...if he really cares about you, he'll give you kudos for what you are doing, and support you and your decision...





I think it's great that you're working for something you want...possibly he lacks the maturity to deal with that idea or is used to being given what he wants without having to earn it...either way, he has to realize that for most of us, we work for what we want or we don't get it...you should not have to give up your dream, for someone who is selfish...the car will give you joy much longer if it comes down to having to choose...
Reply:You are a smart girl and you are absolutely right in what you are doing.... If he loves you and it sounds like he does he will have to understand and get used to it.... Everyone has to work today and at least you have goals and take a stand and go for what you want in life. that is to be commended.... you are being your own person and you want someone to love you for whom you are right?! so you go girl.......
Reply:No matter how much money you make, it is up to you to make the choice of following this career path or giving it up for him. If he truly does care about you, he should be able to put aside the fact that you work different hours then he does, and the two of you should be able to make arrangements to see each other when your schedules allow you to. To be blunt, if he cannot work with you and your schedule, then you might want to question his commitment to your relationship.
Reply:b/f's come and go. and they make new cars all the time. man tough choice. good luck
Reply:Well your bf should respect the fact that your doing something and going after something you really want. He should back you 100% and encourage you and try to work his scheduale around yours to make it work. Cause if you guys are really in love then it will workout. If not then its just not meant to be. Cause you have to remember love is a two way street you can't get it wothout recieving it and sometimes that means making sacrifices.
Reply:since when does love not involve sacrifice at times in order to achieve certain goals? Explain to him I need to earn money for a car!! Then tell him I will renegotiate my schedule after that car is bought and paid for!! perhaps if he sees an end to the conflict in schedule he can be patient and wait!
Reply:Put yourself first. He obviously is. Tell him what you are doing and why you are doing it and if he can't accept it then move on. You are too good for him.
Reply:girl go for that dream car, and you making good money. make plans when it is right for the two of you, what about weekends? he should understand and deal with it! sound like he a brat!
Reply:Oh please .... If he made enough to take care of you both, and buy your dream car for you then there would not be a problem.


He feels inadequate just like 80% of all guys.


You keep working. and let him know that you love him not for his money! LOL!
Reply:I think you need to take a closer look at your boyfriend. He sound's like a controller!!Big time!!If he can't give you the same "working man's" respect,that you give him...It may be time to move on and take back YOUR LIFE!! You've got some serious thinking to do.Get started!!
Reply:its not choosing money over him, it priorities and he can also spend time with you on your lunch break or his, but even a Little time together help