Should i have had a c-section?

my daughter is 8 months old and i had a c-section i think i have ppd. i cry for no reason and everytime i think about my c-section and how the docter and everyone in the room laughed at me. the docter also told me the only way he would deliver my daughter was a c-section i was 9 months and this is when he decided to tell me. he said i have a narrow pelvis. i weighted 245 at the end of my pregnancy. yea she was born healthy and but im a single mother and was living with my grandmother (shes 69) so i had no help . i had told him that and he didnt care i had a scheduled c-section he also told me that if i didnt show he wouldnt deliver my daughter and no other docter would either. he did a sloppy job on my c-section and im still im pain 8 1/2 months later. now people are telling me that i will never experience natural childbirth is it true pls help!!!

Should i have had a c-section?
If you are still hurting seek medical help at another hospital with a different doctor. Ask for a referral to a psychologist/ psychiatrist/ therapist to have someone to help you sort these issues out. If you are crying for no reason, that is reason enough to think that you may have post-partum depression. Good luck and switch doctors ASAP.
Reply:Why did everyone laugh at you?





My doctor said that a narrow pelvis is one of the reasons that a c-section is recommended. That being said, there are lots of women who have had a VBAC(vaginal birth after c-section). If you get pregnant again, get a different doctor.





I had a c-section almost 2 years ago and I still have some pain and numbness, it is normal. It's not comfortable but it is normal.





If you think that you have PPD, please see a doctor, it can be managed.


Hope you feel better soon.
Reply:You need to tell this to a lawyer and maybe find another doctor that is not involved with the one you went to. You should not be in pain at that stage.


If you had the bikini cut for your delivery you could still have a natural childbirth. Medicine is advancing every year on that subject too.
Reply:That is an old wives tail...I know that I HAD to have two c-sections. But I also know that my sister had a c-section with her first and two vaginal delieveries with her next two. The only thing with my 2nd birth was that I could not have a PA or NP just incase I had to have a c-section....And that did happen. There is just a higher chance that you will have to have one. So no, that is not FACT.
Reply:Why would you stay with such a doctor without getting a second opinion. You should report him to the medical boards of your state!


But firstly you need to seek some professional help from a therapist- now. See your family doctor about getting a reference if you need one.


Chances are you will need another c section for future pregnancies as VBAC are considered risky and a high liability for doctors.
Reply:I also only found that out after I had mine too. I think you can have natural childbirth but on the whole it's very dangerous as you can rupture and that put's you and the baby at risk, so for me it's safer just to do the C-Section.
Reply:A lot of OB/GYN are against VBAC (Vaginal birth after cecerian ), but there are some doctors that WILL do it as long as there are no complications or concerns. Don't worry. Just find a doctor that WILL do a VBAC. And always get a second opinion.
Reply:your doctor was an asshole and you should SUE him
Reply:If you think you have ppd, definitely seek out help from a doctor (do it both for you and for your baby, since your health will affect her, too). If you're still in pain almost 9 months after the c-section, seek help for that, too (switch doctors since you're obviously not comfortable with your old one). Those are treatable problems.





As for the c-section, If you have subsequent children and a vbac is very important to you, you can ask about one. If your doctor was right that your body is such that the baby would likely not fit out, then obviously that's not going to work out in subsequent pregnancies, either. But you are doing yourself and your baby a disservice by obsessing about it. The *only* thing that matters in childbirth is having a healthy mom and healthy baby at the end. Which door the kid comes out is really irrelevant. I've had two emergency c-sections and two vbacs, and I'm telling you unequivocally that the childbirth (or its method) is not what's important -- the years of being a parent are! Please don't obsess about how the baby was born -- go obsess about your 8-month-old, instead! "Natural childbirth" is a means to an end -- a healthy baby -- and no more than that.
Reply:It sounds to me like you had an unprofessional doctor if he laughed at you and threatened you into one. But there is no way for us to know if you should have had one or not. What really matters is that you have a healthy beautiful daughter. How she came into the world shouldn't be important, because she is here. It is also not necessarily true that you can never have a natural birth. I had a c-section with my last child, and my dr and I have decided to try for a VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarean) with this one, providing everything is going well and it won't jeopardize either of our healths. I know several people who have had successful VBACs, so it can be done.


I would definetly switch doctors if you haven't already, and please please get help if you think you have ppd. There is no shame in help, and so many women suffer from it that it is easily treatable nowdays. You can talk to a doctor, and they can refer you to a therapist or counselor. You don't have to suffer with it, so please talk to someone, for you and your daughter.


(PS- I'm not saying he was right, but the width of your pelvis has no relation to your weight)
Reply:Natural child birth has nothing to do with a c-section. I am sure the doctor had his reason. My wife had 3 c-sections because my kids were over due.(2 WEEKS) But he told us that she would be able to have them naturally if we wanted to. C-sections are done to ensure the health of the mother and baby. There are so many problems that can occur in natural child birth and if you had narrow pelvis then they may have been concerned that the baby may have gotten stuck. I think that you P P D has some part to do with they way you feel no one cares. My wife says that if it wasn't for me taking time off to help after their births that she would have suffered P P D. It is a lot of work and sometimes when its just you and the baby is asleep, depression sets in. I hope all works out for you and perhaps if you decide to have more children things will be different, but if you still need a c-section that does not make you less of a mother or woman.
Reply:It sounds like you had lousy prenatal care, and I'm very sorry for that. While most doctors are caring and professional, there are always a few that really need to find another line of work - in any field.





But it doesn't mean you have to keep feeling this way. Can you call your regular doctor or a community mental health center? Being a young, single mom is tough. And while post-partum depression lifts on its own, there's no reason to suffer silently. Medication might help. Just talking to others might help.





As for a VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section), they're increasingly common. They're not without potential complications, but my firstborn was an emergency C-section, and I have the option of trying for a VBAC or not with my second. (I'm 16 weeks.) You'll need to talk it over with your care provider when the time comes, but there's no reason to assume you won't be able to try.





Was your recent C-section necessary? It's hard to say. Since there wasn't anyone else there with you at your doctor's appointment, you were making a big decision with only your own judgment. As a new mom and a young woman, that's tough. Honestly, even as a 34 y.o. with plenty of education and all the resources you could ask for, I often find myself struggling to reach a decision.





But what I'm confident of is that your doctor lied. Had you shown up at the hospital in labor, they certainly would've attempted to deliver your child in the safest fashion possible. It's unethical to do anything else.





On balance, the most important thing is to take care of yourself. Obviously, you need to find a better OB/GYN for routine annual care - and you can talk over whether or not your C-section is healing properly with that doctor. But the short term issue is to find a support group or counselor to talk with. If nothing else, flip open the phone book to your social services section and try calling any place that seems to offer parental support, or address parental stress.





Honey, you're doing your best for yourself *and* your daughter. Keep your chin up and know that life is long, and you have lots of opportunities before you. No doors are closed because of this, but it's time to set about opening some new ones.





Best wishes!