Guys who quit jobs to get new ones that make enough money to let your woman stay home with baby -- please read

I need to get another job (I work at an accounting firm) so that the mother of my baby can stay home to care for him -- we do not believe in daycare, too risky, and I want to do the right thing and be the provider.





Please give me tips on how other guys got the courage to make it happen, it seems so hard to have full responsibility on my back (what if I lose a job and we have no money for rent / food) but I know I have to do it.





I have already tried getting a raise, just not going to happen and i have my resume ready to send to other companies. This is a big step but the right thing to do -- not fair that the baby is not with mom while she also works all day..





Any advice can help... Shoudl I tell this situation while I interview? what if I have to get 2 jobs to have enough money and never see the baby b/c I am always working?





Is this what our athers went through and men today are just spoiled b/c women also make good money?





Thank you and please share how you did this?

Guys who quit jobs to get new ones that make enough money to let your woman stay home with baby -- please read
I stay at home with my two kids... my husband provides for us. I try and help out by babysitting... maybe she can do that or sell stuff on ebay to bring in extra cash. She can sell Avon or Marykay or something like that. There are things she can do around the house and keep the baby at home. There are many folks that are in the same boat as you. Hope this helps.
Reply:Hi, iam 25 years old from Greece. Recently my wife gave birth and we now have a wonderful boy. He is great. I don't know what you should do, but i can tell you what i did and maybe you could try it.





4 years ago we were engaged to be married and we were both working as employees in full time jobs for less than 470euros a month. So i was looking for opportunity to earn more money and work for myself. I found this business that i could start part time, work whenever i could and earn some good extra money. This business and the part time income after 5 month was double than my full time's income, so i fired my boss. After a year my wife got fired from her job, because she recieved her degree as an acountant and her boss would have to pay her more money, so he fired her. Thank heaven my income from my new business was high enough that she didnt have to work any more. Last year we got married and 3 months ago we had our little baby. The nice thing in this whole situation is that i work from home, providing my family the support they need. We are together all day and this is great since i allways wanted to be in the growing up experience of my childern.





So lets see, my wife and i are home with our son(we don't need day care), we have a very good income, and i started this part time and kept my full time job until my income from my part time business doubled my full time income.





I think its pretty good at least for me. I dont know if this is for you or if you qualify but you can see it for yourself and be the judge.





You might as well go through the same procedure that i went to learn about this business.





Good luck.
Reply:Do not mention it during an interview unless you are "using it for inspiration" Don't use it for sympathy. IF ASKED, what inspired you to find a new job, tell them that you have a new bundle of joy and you want to provide the best future you can for him, etc. Your idea is a good one however the woman was part of that choice also, it is unfair so say that either roles are obvious. Some men stay at home while wives work. If you choose to work that is fine however not required because of your penis. It is a tough situation. Budget your money well, make sure your wife does also and strive to be better and stronger in every way. You can not help your child walk if you are crawling (emotionally and financially).
Reply:It required a tremendous financial sacrifice. Our house isn't the biggest, nicest one on the block. We're getting another couple of years out of our cars than we might not otherwise. We don't take many vacations. We eat at home most of the time.





The tradeoff?





Our kids are happy, well-adjusted, and know they are well-loved.





Heaven knows it won't be easy, but it can be done.





Godspeed.
Reply:I did it; and you are correct - it's not easy, there's plenty of stress and uncertainty, and no matter what, you're in for a years of personal sacrifice.





Welcome to adulthood. Hope you enjoyed your youth!





Immediate steps: get financially ready to live on less. Do all that budgeting and stuff that you always blew off before. Get your credit cards cut up and under control. You may even have to take drastic steps like driving an old beater car or turning off cable and cooking your own food at home!





While interviewing - you'll probably get the quesiton "why are you leaving your current job?" and the simple answer is "my wife are starting a family and need more income, so I'm willing to work hard and really contribute"


If your interviewer has kids, he will understand, and this will probably be a plus for you.





We had to suck it up like I described for several years money was painfully, scary tight many times. But... I finally got serious about my career, which led to a long list of things to put me where I am today - not wealthy, but doing very well and on the right track.





You can do it - go confidently in the direction of your dreams.





Scott
Reply:Prepare your resume and send it to several staffing agencies that specialize in your field. The agency will ask your salary and job requirements -- make sure it's in line with your actual abilities; i.e., don't go asking for $100k if you're a first year assistant, and the agency will only send you out on interviews that match your given criteria. Don't quit your current job until you've got the job you want in hand.





If you've worked in an accounting firm for any length of time, you've probably picked up a lot about the trade through osmosis. Take a tax preparing course and then advertise in your town's version of The Flyer/Pennysaver, etc, and prepare personal taxes from January to April on the side, and then of course, there are corporate taxes that need to filed quarterly. This is something that, with minimal effort on your part, could easily turn into quite the lucrative business that yourself can run from the quiet of your own living room.





Hope this helps!





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Reply:You could try to get a Freelance job.


In Belgium/Holland it's a good way to go to get a larger income.
Reply:why doesnt your wife/gf get a part time job when you arent working as a just in case? they have tons and tons of things you can do from home now too in case she doesnt want to leave the baby at all, which is understanable.





i wouldnt saying anything during interviews, it is illegal to not hire someone based on their living situtation, but as well as know, that really doesnt matter.





Having extra money in an account is always a good idea, for the 'just in case'





good luck you and congrats on your newborn
Reply:I am the stay at home mommy..... My hubby works at a Sonic Restaurant and we have very little money, but we have what we need. The two of you need to sit down and figure where exactly you are spending your money. It is far easier to stop buying Starbucks than it is to get and work a second job. I see no reason for you to work 2 jobs, this will cause distance between you and your wife and she will actually resent your not being there more than she will the lack of money. I don't know exactly what to say, but if you have any specific questions you may contact me and I will try to answer them. Best wishes
Reply:My husband changed his career. Both of our degrees are in management and marketing. He wanted me to be able to stay home with the kids when they were small. He got books and passed the Microsoft A+ certification and just worked his way up, so by the time we had the kids I could stay home. I actually still could, he makes good money and still pays all the bills. He just really made it a priority in his life. He and I both grew up in households where no parents were home due to being at work. In the IT field, a lot of your work can be done from home. I truly would suggest that(it is what we both do now). We get paid well, have a lot of flexilbility and can always be there for the kids. Good luck!
Reply:it might help if you mention that you have a family , they might see that as you looking for a career and would be dependable
Reply:We both worked and our child went to a daycare that I knew the people really well, almost could consider them family...we both made really good money, however after we had our first born, we lost my other half's dad and decided to move closer to his family.





When we decided to move, we also decided that I would stay home with the children because we had another baby on the way, now we have both children at home with mom while dad works. It was and is hard to get used to the loss of the second income, but keeping the kids at home instead of leaving them with a daycare has been a better deal. since if I work then my whole paycheck would have to go to daycare (cost of one child in daycare is 180, two kids in daycare 500 that is a month )





There are stay at home moms that sell Avon, Tupperware, Mary Kay and other odd jobs like babysitting other peoples kids for a fee, just so they can stay home.





I do not suggest telling this story while you interview, because It isn't the employers problem and you don't want to make it theirs.





Keep in mind that you were probably looking for a job when you got the one you have now, and there is no rule that says once you have a job that you can't keep looking for something better.


There are many jobs out there is the work force, If all else fails you can go to the job service and find a job and if you lose any job you have, you just find another job and do what you need to do to take care of your family.





If you take on two jobs, like my other half then you can tell both jobs you need at least one day off to spend with your family...You can work like that for a while, and still look for a job that you can do that gives you more time with your family and pays better, along with a job that gives you benefits like medical, sick leave and so on.





I think all families that have both partners working getting in an extra paycheck are spoiled to an extent, but as you see the news the children are suffering..Parents don't pay as much attention as they did in the ole days when the mother stayed home with the kids. There are possitive and negatives to both sides, When you have an extra income you can afford to buy things you want and need, having to adjust to having less money means tighting on the budget and stress on the family relationship.





If you and your spouse sit down and discuss this situation with eachother and come to a conclution that the both of you like, because you are a couple and a family wither she stays at home or works outside of the house, the two of you need to share everything that is going on even the stress of worrying about money issues.





I personally like staying at home, because I am raising my children and I am not paying someone else to raise my children.


I also get to spend quality time with them, the thought that some day they will be on their own and not want mommy or daddy makes me enjoy the time I do have.


I hope everything works out for the two of you.


good luck and best wishes
Reply:I know you asked for guys, but my husband and I decided when we had our son that I would not go back to work. We have made our sacrifices and have made it work for almost 5 years now. Yes, you might have to work a little more, but that is a sacrifice you will have to make. You just have to remember to make the time you do spend with your child as special as possible. That does not always involve money. You attention and love is more valuable than anything you can buy in a store. And just think, this situation can make you appreciate what nature and your family really have to offer.
Reply:Do not tell the other companies your family situation when you interview - it is none of their business and asking for trouble. Wait until you get the job offer in writing if you plan to discuss it with them. That way, if they are going to suck about it, you can give them the boot and look elsewhere
Reply:Are you sure you need a new job? Are you really going to be making that much more money at a new one, will it be stable, etc? Maybe you should see if there is a possibility of staying where you are and making a budget that works. You will probably have to make sacrifices no matter what your job - any chance of downsizing the home, reducing payments, get rid of autos etc. I am a stay at home mom and the bottom line is you have to make sacrifices. We can't jet off the Caribbean every winter or drive a BMW but its worth it for us.