Why is he so insecure b/c of my job?

I am 19 (female) and my boyfriend is 25 (male). We have been together for seven months and our relationship is very commited and serious and i just became a dancer (yes, that kind of dancer). Anyways, i told him i am going to quit once i make enough money to buy a car, then i am going to get a real job and go to school. I make about 7-9 grand a month. I also dont spend a cent, since we live together he pays all of our bills. I need to work about 2 months to make the down payment and insurance money. How would you feel if you (a man) were in my boyfriend's situation? Is he right to be so upset and insecure?

Why is he so insecure b/c of my job?
if he doesn't let you pay for stuff, EMBRACE IT.





create your own account [secret] and build that money up
Reply:that is cool, shoot. Id say buy the car you want dang it!
Reply:Takes a strong guy to not have a problem with his lady showing her all to a roomful of drunk strangers. I'd have no problem with it but I dont' view my ladies as being my property.
Reply:If I were your bf and I don't have a car yet then maybe I will get insecure cause you are getting the car and I'm stuck paying the bills instead of saving for my own car... this is expected in this situation. Since you mentioned that you are seriously committed then split the bills. That's fair enough. When you get married then maybe that's the time he can pay all the bills there is.
Reply:He might be insecure about it because he thinks that maybe u might just do more than dance w/ the guys at the club or where ever u dance at. If u sit him down and tell him that u r strictly just dancing and promise nothing more is happening, then maybe it will ease his mind and he will back off some. Hope this help and good luck!
Reply:I wouldn't want my wife "shaking it" in front of other men. Not because I'm insecure, but because if we are committed to each other, there are things that should be done and seen only when we are together.


No amount of money is worth losing that intimacy.