If my boyfriend is moving b/c of a job, should I ask him about moving w/him or do I let him ask me?

My boyfriend got a new job, in another state. Well he hasn't taken yet. But I don't know if should tell him that I am willing to move with him or if I should wait and see if he brings up the idea to me. I'm afraid that if I bring it up I may freak him out, like I'm pushing the idea on him.


We have been dating for almost a year and have discussed the topic of moving in together.


I need help fast! I really don't know what to do!

If my boyfriend is moving b/c of a job, should I ask him about moving w/him or do I let him ask me?
Maybe you should try letting him know that you would be open to the idea of moving to another state...are you sure that's what you really want to do? He could be concerned about uprooting you from your family, friends, job and school..maybe he is worried that you won't like it and won't be happy. You should really consider whats best for you, and let him know how you feel. If you don't try it, you may never know!!
Reply:If I was your boyfirend, I would feel like asking you would be asking too much. YOu don't have to ask him if you can though. Just say, "I wanted to let you know that I would be willing to move with you if you take this job." that way, he doesn't ahve to tell you that he wants you to, or doesn't want you to, he can just say "ok thanks for telling me." That way, if he takes the job and he wants you to come with him, you know that he will definitely ask you if he wants you to come.
Reply:Maybe he wants to relocate to get away from you... If he wants you to go he'll ask you.
Reply:I would let him ask you first.


He may not be planning on asking you to go, or if you ask he may feel like he has to say yes, even if he doesn't want you to. Either way, would you want to uproot and move away under those circumstances?


Neither one of these may be the case, but you need to think about it level-headedly (is that a word?), before making a big move like this (leaving job, family, etc.)


You could try to talk about having a long distance relationship, and see what he says about it. It would be the perfect opportunity for him to bring it up, and also give you a feel for what he is thinking.
Reply:ask him...ya know men really do hate it when you cant just say what you want and be honest about what you are thinking instead of playing games to get him to ask you...if you have been dating a year and you are too scared to ask him if he would like to continue long distance or maybe have you go there then your relationship can't be that healthy...really you need to know your own value and hold your head up not freak out about what a guy might think of you if you ask him a legitimate question...whats the worst that will happen if he freaks? He moves away without you...and if you don't bring it up...he moves away without you...so you see why I find this silly? Good luck I hope you value yourself enough to speak up. ;)
Reply:I would just bring it up. May be go out for diner, or cook him a diner (with the escuse that he needs to relax) and then just casually ask him what is going through his head and let him know that if he wants, you are willing to move with him and start your new life together in the new state. Make it very clear that you are not asking for marriage or anything (he is most likely scared that if he asks you to go with him is pretty much like asking you for marriage) but that you just want to make his decision easier and follow him.
Reply:Dont come out and ask him cuz that might not be too easy for u.wat u could do is wait till u get him alone and yall are snugglin and drop hints about u goin with him if thats wat u wan. Ask him if him moving away without u is going to allow u 2 to still be together.if he really cares for u he should be able to give u a straight answer. Best of Luck.
Reply:let him ask you
Reply:wait for him to ask u to move in with him
Reply:He's thinking about a lot of things and may not know how to bring it up. Go ahead and ask him about it.
Reply:Let him ask you. Maybe he needs time to sort out his life. Not knowing if ya'll have any problems maybe he needs space.
Reply:let him ask u first if he dident thats mean he have differant plans
Reply:So your boyfriend is moving b/c of his new job. First how do you feel about him.Second are you ready to move in with him? After thinking this all through then, you will know what to do.
Reply:I think you should wait until your just sitting around and being casual. Ask him nicely what his plans are for the future and then if you are part of those plans. Maybe he is afraid of asking you, maybe he doesn't know if you want to go with him. Tell him that you love him very much and will support him in everything he does. Tell him that you want to know because if he wants u to go with him you will need to begin preparing for the big move.
Reply:I write an agony uncle column for my local paper. And by "an agony aunt coumn" I mean nothing and by "for my local paper" I mean "for my local paper" i suppose.





Anyways, I'd say that until he takes the job you can forego the worry. Hes probably planning an eloborate proposal on the night that he tells you he's taking the job.





....either that or you might be looking for a new beau!
Reply:Maybe you should simply talk to him and ask how he feels about taking the job. If he's not serious about it, there's no need to start the entire moving-in-together discussion. However if he really wants to take the job and you feel like you would be ready to leave your place and go with your man, tell him! Though, you have to consider what you will be doing over there if you decide to relocate...

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